Mentoring – why?

What made you volunteer?

There were quite a few reasons. First, I felt I wanted to give something back.

Others had helped me a lot in my career, so I wanted to help people in turn. I also felt it would be good for my self development. It’s easy to get stuck in a bit of a routine doing the day job, and mentoring gave me the opportunity to learn different skills through practical application.

Do you enjoy it? If so, why?

Yes I do. It is something a bit different, and gives you a fresh perspective. I have also found it provides me with a connection with a different generation. The conversations with my mentee are also very interesting, which is great.

What has been the highlight?

It is very satisfying when something clicks and there is a light bulb moment when your mentee reaches a decision or a new understanding, and this effects real change. The conversations have highs and lows, but the highlight is definitely when a question or discussion really progresses the mentee.

What has been challenging?

The expectations of the mentor and mentee are often different. I have found mentees may expect that the mentor is there to solve their problems. In fact, the purpose is to assist the mentee to reach their own decisions and solve their own problems, but it can take a while for both sides to get comfortable with this.

Did the training help?

Absolutely. I would be worried about anyone being a mentor without the training. I thought it was excellent – not just for being a mentor, but for other elements of life.

Do you benefit too?

I think one of the benefits to the mentor is exposure to the art of asking open questions. It really makes you think about what you are asking, and how you are asking it. Mentoring also moves you away from imposing solutions and stops you from just telling someone what to do. It gives you the skills to relax and let the individual “own” their challenges and come to you with solutions.

Has it helped your organisation?

Yes. I think everyone could do with being mentored, and with being a mentor. I find I now have more effective conversations in the workplace. In my view, mentoring works best when it is separate from your workplace, as it allows you to discuss matters with a neutral person. The Society’s programme allows a generation of lawyers to benefit from more support, and personally mentoring has allowed me to develop new skills and fresh thinking.

How would you advise someone thinking of it?

Go for it. I would encourage everyone to give it a try.